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For many people, having children doesn’t follow a straight path. I work with clients navigating fertility challenges, LGBTQ+ identity, or choosing to parent solo. The options available to them, while beautiful, are often complex and expensive. IVF, egg freezing, artificial insemination, adoption, and surrogacy each come with emotional highs and lows, and a wide range of financial impacts.
So we talk about it early.
While traditional financial planning tends to assume a predictable life path (marriage → kids → retirement), reality often looks very different. For those pursuing a nontraditional route to parenthood, I help them think through the financial implications in the same way we might approach buying a home or planning for retirement: proactively, realistically, and rooted in their values.
Key Takeaways
- The path to parenthood is often nontraditional, complex, and costly, requiring financial planning in advance.
- Fertility treatments, adoption, and surrogacy have significant emotional and financial considerations that vary widely.
- Starting with clarity about values, preferences, and non-negotiables helps guide decision-making.
- Employer benefits, HSAs, and financing strategies can help offset costs not covered by insurance.
- Financial planning provides resilience and flexibility when plans inevitably shift.
What I’m Telling My Clients
I encourage clients to start with clarity: What does family mean to you? What are you open to, and what are your non-negotiables? What are the relative costs of the different options available to you? Are there any employer-provided benefits or other resources we can use? These conversations can guide us toward options aligning with their values and finances.
Then we dig into the numbers. IVF often involves multiple rounds. Surrogacy requires legal and agency fees. Adoption varies widely depending on whether it’s domestic, international, or through foster care. Most of these costs aren’t covered by insurance, though increasingly, many employers have provisions to offset adoption fees or egg freezing costs.
We work together to build up cash reserves, explore HSA strategies, and weigh financing options.
Important
On average, one round of IVF could range from $15,000 to $30,000.
I also help clients stay grounded during the inevitable pivots, like when Plan A becomes Plan B. The journey to parenthood can be filled with unexpected turns, and it’s possible that a preferred option will not be feasible. Financial planning can’t remove uncertainty, but it can create space for hope, options, and resilience.
The Bottom Line
Family-building looks different for everyone. By making space for these conversations and pro-active planning, we can help clients pursue the future they dream of, without sacrificing their financial well-being.
